Dear Carolyn: I do not get along with my sister-in-law. She is nosy, rude and catty, and it is very difficult for me to be around her for more than a few minutes. Full Article at Detroit Free Press

arrogant or consciously evil -- which is possible, but cluelessness and self-absorption make more sense. That's why, in your last line, you'll find your first step: Do not regard your sister-in-law as someone who thinks like you. Full Article at Salt Lake Tribune